Accepting your new limits of learning to live with restrictions When you are diagnosed with fibromyalgia, there are a number of thoughts that go through our heads.
The following weeks, months and even years, will bring many new knowledge and performance. And let’s face it, most of them are unpleasant.
One recognition that may be especially difficult to accept is that we now have limitations.
We have to be a highly functional member of society, suddenly have limits on how we can work, take care of themselves and others and how frustrating it can be of a social nature, to say the least.
However, learning what your limits are and how to live within them is an important step in accepting your diagnosis.
Some people with fibromyalgia may be afraid to do things, for fear of what recovery may cost. Others may go to the other extreme and strain to exhaustion and then be unable to do anything else.
These are two totally understandable reactions. However, accepting your new limitations can help you live life in the best possible way, despite having an illness, but first you need to learn what your own limits are.
What a person with fibromyalgia can do may differ from what other patients are able to do. All right, there is no need to compare with anyone. Once you have learned what your limits are, then you have to place restrictions on living within them. How to do it?
Learning to say no This is difficult for me. I have always been the person who wants to please everyone, to make everyone happy, to help everyone. And, although it is unrealistic for several reasons, the main reason is that I am sick, I had to learn to say no.
I had to learn to explain to my boss and co-workers that I could not load or move heavy boxes. I had to learn that I could not help friends to move.
Learning that he could not accept all the invitations Yes! This leads others to feel frustrated with me, especially if they used me to organize everything for them.
But that is something that I have learned to live. I know there may be some things that I can not do, but that does not mean it is not valuable or useful in other ways. This reminder helps me say no when necessary